wHy ArE yOu InTo WeTtInG?

 



Sorry for the sarcasti-caps, but I just can't understand why so many people seem so baffled by this.

"Eww why would anyone LIKE that?" 

"You're kidding aren't you?  Stop.  Nobody pees themselves on purpose."  

"Sounds like another excuse for pure laziness to me."

Sure it's not for everyone, hence why it's a fetish/paraphilia, but that shouldn't preclude you from wrapping your brain around why someone else might enjoy it.  

The answer is simple:  BECAUSE IT FEELS GOOD!  Why does it feel good?  Because urine is warm, wet and comes from the genitals.  In women, a full bladder presses on the G-spot which can increase sensation & overall horniness.  (Not sure about male anatomy).  Sex therapists often encourage women who want to learn to "squirt" to practice in a safe place like the bath tub with a full bladder first because it feels so similar to peeing you have to get comfortable with the sensation if you want to learn to 'let go'.  Take something that physically feels amazing and combine that with the taboo aspect... the fact that urination is such a private thing and wetting a social faux pas.  So you get urgency, desperation, panic, the physical sensation, surrender, relief, release & the naughty afterglow.  Lot of possible reasons to find it pleasurable. 

But there's another side to this coin: the pure relaxation.  

While some wetters do it because it's sexually arousing or titillating; others do it to relax and unwind... to flip the bird at authority so to speak.  These are more often the nonchalant wetters who tend to be more high strung & anxious in everyday life.  The perfectionists and Type A's.  For them, wetting is the ultimate form of relaxing without the risks of drugs or alcohol.  What could be more chill than just GOING in your pants wherever you are? 




Casual vs. Urgent Wetting

Nothing to see here...

We're all trained from childhood that bathroom accidents have heavy consequences in the form of parental/caregiver scolding, social exclusion, bullying and general mocking or humiliation.  There's something comforting and even liberating about standing there and wetting yourself when you need to go.  Disabled actress Elana Binysh alludes to this in her "I think it was a feeling" piece, in which she says about public wetting (in all seriousness) about onlookers, "They're jealous.  They wish they were pissing too."  (Hot!)  She has learned to accept and even embrace her incontinence by admitting that wetting your pants feels good, and this is both sexy to read about and empowering for incontinent people, I'd imagine.

I see this question posed in so many different ways on sites like Quora, as if people are fishing for the obvious answer:  that we do it because it feels good & we enjoy it.  Same reason continent people wear diapers.  That's one of the perks of being an adult--you can do things like eating too many sweets, staying up too late or pissing your pants just because you want to.  Of course all actions come with consequences, however benign or small.

I divide wetting into two distinct types:  urgent and casual.  Urgent = the big potentially humiliating accidents that you fight during a bladder hold.  The ones where you either give in because you know you'll never make it to a bathroom in time or you lose control completely.  Casual wetting is much more relaxed and can even bring about physical relaxation itself.  No desperation necessary--just spurt or leak whenever you get the urge as you go about your normal activities.  The difference lies in the headspace, not the amount of urine released or any other factor.  One is exciting/accidental/embarrassing and the other is intentional/leisurely/"meh".

It seems that high strung people with lots of social anxiety and stress tend to prefer a more nonchalant or casual approach to wetting while others (Type B laid back folks) prefer the desperation subtype with the thrill/urgency, sometimes in riskier settings.  Obviously there are exceptions and crossovers and people who like both.  For me, it just depends on what mood I'm in but I def like to draw out the fun by trying to keep it casual and "spurting" as long as possible.  And public urgency does absolutely nothing for me because I can't truly let go and enjoy myself or get sexual with people around.

Posters in the /r/nonchalantwetting sub on Reddit piss themselves doing all kinds of things, from brushing their teeth to enjoying a good book to doing yoga.  The idea is "kill two birds with one stone" by peeing while doing something else, that way you don't have to interrupt your life to use the bathroom.  There's something very freeing about this too in a cheeky, rebellious sort of way.  My dream would be to have a house or island where I could casually wet without having to worry about cleanup, though I'm not sure how this could be achieved.  Just lounge around the house in a different outfit every time I had to pee and soak myself in various rooms and positions.  The hammock, the greenhouse, the sunroom, the gazebo, the gym, the bar, the infrared sauna... Oh if only I had the moolah.

So hopefully that answers this silly question.  There are so many reasons one could be into wetting:  for sexual arousal and excitement, as a drug-free way to unwind and relax, as a middle finger to the establishment, because it's convenient and lets them fully hyperfocus on their favorite things, the taboo aspect.  Take your pick.  The point is, there are many more dangerous and unhygienic things people do that you should be concerned about, though I won't get into that here.  Of course if you really want to know, trying it for yourself will show you better than any words could ever tell you!  

Summertime cooldown

  

Creative Fiction: Aubrey's Accident

 

Name:  Aubrey Gray

Age:  32

Location:  N. Carolina

Background:  Aubrey was on her way to Kroger when she decided to stop at Dutch Bros for a large coffee to perk her up.  It was the weekend and she was still slightly hung over from the big game celebration the night before.  She sat in her car listening to her favorite 2000s station while she downed the giant drink with an extra shot of espresso, finishing 3/4ths of it before heading inside the Walmart to pick up her groceries.  She would've had them delivered but last time they screwed up half her order.  The store layout was all wonky as they were doing some kind of renovation, throwing Aubrey off and making the whole saga take that much longer.  Thankfully the coffee was kicking in and the fog was lifting a bit.  She danced down the aisle to the upbeat '80s tune playing on the store's overhead speakers.

About halfway through her list, her bladder made its needs known.  Nope, not today Satan. Aubrey had always detested public bathrooms, and Walmart's were notoriously grody.  She picked up the pace but couldn't find the batteries or nasal spray which added an extra 10 minutes to her journey.  She located the nasal spray but could NOT find the batteries.  Should she track down someone and ask?  Maybe, but what if they were all the way across the store?  Her need wasn't urgent yet, maybe a 7 of 10, but the 5 p.m. lines were starting to form at the checkout counters.  Shit.  

She decided to forego the batteries and just check out now to beat the rush, but that coffee was creeping up faster than expected.  Maybe she would need to use the bathroom real fast.  She pulled her cart with her as far as she could, grabbed her purse and dashed toward the ladies' room only to see a big "Out of Order" sign on the door.  Fuck, seriously?  Was the whole store under construction at once?  She hoofed it back to the checkout line and danced in place the entire time as two ladies checked out before her.  By now it was obvious to others the state she was in but she didn't care.  She discreetly unbuttoned her top jeans button and did her best to focus on her breathing, clenching every muscle below the waist.  Finally her turn came.  She flung her items through the self-checkout at light speed and thankfully had no issues before rushing to the car, her legs clenched tightly together as she waddled toward the car.  

It was about 6 p.m.--dim but not dark by any means.  Aubrey unlocked the trunk of her SUV and began chucking her groceries in as fast as she could while openly holding her crotch.  Maybe letting a little leak go would relieve some pressure, she thought?  It wasn't so much a "thought" as an instinct at this point... a bladder reflex.  So she did.  The spurt lasted about 2 full seconds and boy, did it feel good.  So she squatted down low and let another go, this one longer.  She tried to spread her legs as wide as possible to minimize the damage, but it was harder to stop this time.  Now she was in a tough spot.  She didn't want to piss herself in the car, but there were people out here... 

She stood up and dumped the last of the groceries in the trunk and as she did, her bladder made the decision for her.  She let the cart roll away into the street and took cover behind her open car door, trying to make it look like she was searching for something inside the SUV as she absolutely flooded her light denim jeans.  She gasped as piss flooded down both legs with full force, splashing onto the pavement below.  "Shit-shit-shit!" she whispered to herself in a full panic, her stream nowhere near slowing.  

By the time she'd finished, her jeans were almost completely dark with piss.  She rifled through her console until she found an old jacket to sit on and quickly headed home, head hung in shame.  But boy, was the relief amazing.  
  

Pee Question: Using Incontinence as a Cover for "Accidents"?

Anyone ever LIED about having an incontinence condition (OAB, latchkey incontinence, bed wetting etc) to get away with the occasional deliberate wetting?  I assume this has happened and know for a fact that Omo lovers insert themselves into online incontinence discussions (not cool), but I rarely hear of anyone having the guts to do this in their real lives.  Granted, it'd be harder to convince certain people like your parents and siblings who grew up with you and KNOW you're not a bedwetter for instance, but you may not want to wet in front of them anyway.  I wouldn't.  But new friends, coworkers, partners and others would be less difficult to influence if you told them at the start of your relationship.  Might be something you mention offhandedly early on "just in case" even if you never end up doing it.

This is a hot fantasy of mine as well as the inverse: the incontinent person who develops a pee fetish because they eventually accept their condition and learn to enjoy it, which I suspect is even less common.  I've listed realistic scenarios where a person could believably get away with wetting and blaming the situation, such as while running a marathon or while having a "pee dream".  No need to be incontinent for that; it happens to the best of us.  All that's required is too much liquid + lack of bathroom access for too long.  (I love thinking up scenarios where a person might be forced to wet, or to pretend to have an "accident" in public).  

I know this borders on unethical wetting, but if nobody ever finds out you're faking, what's the harm?  As long as you don't do it in front of minors and always clean up after yourself, it's just "one of those things" you do occasionally because of your "condition".   

Bladder Training for Overactive Bladder: A Quick How-To

 

It's estimated that 33 million Americans and 20% of the world's population struggles with Overactive Bladder (OAB), with older adults & obese people being disproportionately affected.  Unlike some other incontinence conditions, OAB tends to affect men and women at relatively similar rates (men 16%; women 21%) and is thought to be majorly under-diagnosed.  While not life-threatening, OAB can cause distress by requiring frequent bathroom breaks and causing close calls and accidents when a bathroom isn't available. 

Doctors encourage people with OAB to extend the time between bathroom breaks gradually on a timed schedule, which as we all know can put one at risk for little accidents.  This lends itself well to Omorashi for obvious reasons:  the hyperfocus on one's bladder, the increased desperation and longer holding, the possibility of accidents.  Bonus:  It can really help with OAB as well when done properly & consistently.  Here's what they recommend:

"Bladder training" tips via Google AI summary

Obviously you'll want to start this process on a weekend or when you have a week or more at home to be close to a toilet "just in case".  Then when you transition to in-public you can wear an incontinence pad or similar if you like, but it's generally pretty safe as long as you're only dealing with OAB.  Just don't over-hydrate yourself or do anything you wouldn't normally do--the goal is to go about your day as you normally would, just with increasingly long intervals between bathroom breaks.  Eventually this becomes your new normal.  Set a timer on your cell phone or watch if you need a gentle reminder when it's time to hit the loo.

Surfing the "urge wave"

This is not to say that excessively long holds are good or safe for everyone, but some people get into the opposite habit of using a bathroom every time they pass it "just in case," This shrinks the bladder and makes urgency worse over time.  This is advice for those folks, not you all-day holders.  This process is essentially the opposite of "unpotty training" which I discussed in some detail here.  (Reminder:  I offer full customized instruction guides on unpotty training for $15 via email with pictures, links to secondary sources and easy step-by-step directions for anyone interested).  

Regarding unpotty training, just wetting every time you have the slightest urge is one way diaper wearers lose control of their bladders permanently, which is like an extreme version of what many OAB sufferers do by using a toilet too often.  So hopefully you can see how this habit taken to its extreme can cause problems.  If you consider it a "problem" that is.  😉

My Pee Adventures: Wetting My Bedding

Today was one of those glorious days.  It was laundry day & I decided to try something new & naughty.  My piss mat was already wet so I bunched my (insert top part of my bed:  bedspread?  Comforter?  IDK, the top blanket part that's not a sheet) and began to play while chatting and watching vids... my usual fare.  My need was growing and I decided to be bold and let go all over my unprotected bedding.  I was wearing panties and pajama pants, and it felt great to let go in spurts on my soft bed blankie! 

The thing held soooo much pee without leaking on my mattress; I was kinda surprised.  I popped it in the wash immediately & it was fresh as a daisy after a regular 30 minute run through the machine.  (Though I would've done 60 minutes if I'd waited any longer to wash it).  No stains or other issues either.  I def plan to do that again next time I'm washing my bedding.  It actually holds more piss than my mat.  Everyone's bedding needs a good watering now and again.

Short Creative Fiction Stories w/ Photos

I'm not into performative wetting:  people who wet just for the revenue or reactions.  And believe me, true Omo fans CAN tell the difference.   They all have the exact same sequence:  "Turn camera on, back up, wet your pants silently, turn camera off."  Usually not even a hiss sound is audible from that distance.  

I only get turned on thinking about REAL LIFE wetting scenarios, be they desperate accidents or intentional casual wetting or wetting while masturbating/having sex.  The when/where/who/what/why of it all.  I even enjoy thinking up my own realistic scenarios.  Point being I need context, not just silent content.  And I know I'm not alone.  So I'll be writing my own short fictional stories based on real photos I find around the internet.  If your picture is posted here and you'd like me to edit it or take it down, just let me know.  This is just a fun little creative exercise I heard about on another forum--nothing serious.  🙂

*All names & other details in these stories are FICTIONAL & do not actually describe the individuals in the photos.

First up:  "Debbie Montez"

Age:  44

Location:  Bossier City, LA

Backstory:  Kids are out playing at the creek; her husband is at work.  Deb was doing daily chores when the urge hit her fast and hard, as it often does.  She turned the sink faucet off and was able to regain control by crossing her legs super tight, which gave her false confidence to keep cleaning for just a little longer.  She knew she'd never get these filthy plates washed if she didn't do it all now... she'd been putting it off all weekend. 

Debby had a pretty severe case of OAB since entering peri-menopause and was well aware she shouldn't tempt fate like that, but her brain was so foggy lately she genuinely couldn't remember from one minute to the next and had to force herself to complete tasks in one sitting or they didn't get done. As she whirled around to put the last of the plates in the overly full washer, she felt her bladder spasm and a leak jetted down her thigh.  Shit!  She grabbed her crotch and thought quick about what to do.  She saw a Tupperware container sitting at the back of the counter behind the dish rack and grabbed it, knowing she'd never make it up the stairs in time.  Without even checking to see if the coast was clear she ripped her pants down, squatted over it & unleashed a flood right through her white panties.  She felt a million emotions at once: embarrassed, panicked, scared it would overflow... but most of all, relieved.  Her heart was pounding and her face was flushed.

No time to remove the panties.

The second she finished, she emptied the container in the sink, washed it down and ran upstairs to change her besotted panties.  This was her first full wetting accident since childhood and she wasn't sure how to feel.  Disgusted, surely.  But why was her heart pounding so hard?  Her husband came home just as she got out of the bath tub and she was all over him without fully realizing why until she had some time to reflect.  This might be the start of a new secret pastime for Debbie.

Omorashi Signs: LEO 🦁

Leos (July 23-August 22) are fixed fire signs ruled by the sun.  This makes them bold, dramatic, charismatic and fiercely loyal.  On the downside, Leos can sometimes be a bit prideful if they fail to keep their egos in check, and they may have a hard time letting others take the spotlight if they feel they're not getting enough attention.  

When it comes to all things Omorashi, Leos are quite extroverted and often want to share this side of themselves with others.  Finding ways to do that safely and respectfully are key.  If you're single or your partner isn't into it, the online community is always welcoming to new members.  If you choose to share content, great!  Just make sure to take the proper safety/privacy precautions first.   Avoid showing your face or identifying background decor/landmarks, and remove metadata before uploading photos or videos.  You never know how you'll feel about sexual content being "out there" 10-20 years from now, and once it's public you have 0 control over how it's used.  

If your partner is into it, make sure to give them lots of warm, receptive feedback to encourage further participation.  A few kind words go a long way.  Start slow and save the "big" stuff for later even if your natural instinct is to be bold and daring.  If you put enthusiastic consent first you can't go wrong.  


* Note that your sun sign is only one aspect of your astrological chart so all readings may not be exactly accurate for all Leos.  For a fuller view, you need your date, time and location of birth to determine where all the other planets were when you entered the world.