"I'm a straight woman, why am I so turned on by videos of women wetting?"
"Asexual non-binary person here. As you'd suspect, I don't like having sex or get turned on by anyone IRL but am SO turned on by pee porn featuring men. It's distressing to me tbh. Help?"
"Red-blooded heterosexual male here. 32-years old, Rugby player. Not homophobic by any means but entirely turned off by gay sex. But when it comes to Omorashi content I prefer men by far. wtf?"
This is a relatively common phenomenon I've come across on wetting forums, and to a certain degree I can relate myself. While I much prefer female wetting videos (I'm lesbian), I'm not entirely opposed to male vids when the female content dries up as long as the genitals remain covered. Meanwhile I want NO part of "normie" porn featuring men, let alone actual sex with males. Like, none whatsoever. Total turnoff. Nor would I get off on actually wetting myself with a man in real life.
But when it comes to wetting content, I'm not considering the attractiveness of the individual doing it but the act itself: the position, the setting, the vocalizations. Whether they're fat or thin, Black or white or brown, old or younger, female or male makes no difference. Again, this is not the case when I watch "regular" porn--I need the women to be passably attractive (and 100% female).
I imagine that's the case for other fetishists as well: that they're seeking out this content specifically for the wetting, not the physique or features of the person doing it. When they have a same-sex preference with Omorashi porn, it's likely because that person shares their anatomy and they can project themselves into that person's position easier. Or perhaps it triggers a childhood memory of witnessing someone of that sex having an accident, maybe before they even consciously formed a memory of it.
Is this "gay?"
Studies have also shown that a person's general porn watching behavior doesn't always align with their gender expression or sexual orientation, so no need to fret. YOU define your sexuality, your boundaries & preferences--nobody else. On the other hand, porn can provide a safe space for hetero-identified people to explore other desires without actually engaging in them. That's the key phrase: without engaging in them. Being aroused by a thought, fantasy or fictional scenario is not the same as doing it for real or wanting to do it for real. In order to be gay or bisexual, you have to be sexually attracted to the same sex, meaning you want to engage in sex acts (oral/vaginal/anal sex, mutual masturbation, sex toy use, etc) with them in real life. Even if you do that, you may still exclusively date or have relationships with the opposite sex.
Why does this matter? Because it can be jarring to have a discordant sexual experience or question your orientation, even if you're not homophobic. As long as you remember that you determine your identity, you remain in the driver's seat. We don't choose our attractions or kinks so never feel ashamed or "less than" for these things--just practice radical honesty in your relationships and radical acceptance within yourself. 💛
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