Q&A: Where Does My Piss Kink Come From? (Pt. 1)

Potential Trigger Warning:  Disturbing scientific content further down.  Info contained here is author's opinion only).

Are sexual fetishes more "nature" or "nurture?"  This question comes up almost more than any other in the Omorashi community:  When did your love of urine start & what triggered it?  

There are two main categories Omorashi lovers fall into:  those who exclusively enjoy watching others desperate/wetting and those who love doing it themselves.  (There's often some overlap between that latter group and the 'enjoyment of watching others,' but for our purposes these are two completely separate groups).  We'll call the purple group the "voyeur" cohort and the blue one the "sensation" one.  For those in the "voyeur" group, it often starts in adolescence or the early teen years of puberty with a viewed movie scene, porn video, dirty photos in a magazine or other 2nd-person scenario.  Perhaps even a 3rd-hand story relayed by a friend or sibling about someone they've heard about or seen having an accident.  The takeaway is that the fetish was triggered by seeing or hearing about an impactful thing at a crucial developmental time when the brain was in a pruning stage with hormones surging through it.  Pretty straightforward, eh? 

Then we have the 2nd group, which can be more... complicated.  And sometimes arises from emotionally or sexually inappropriate exposures.  SOMETIMES, not always.  But more often than the 1st cohort.  In this group you have people whose fetish was triggered by a firsthand experience of wetting themselves, which in itself can be a higher stakes act:  bed wetting (occasionally in front of friends), accidents on long flights or road trips with family & other potentially public, shameful accidents.  The mix of arousal, shame, humiliation & confusion this triggers can be difficult in itself to grasp, but this isn't the worst of it. 

Because then you have that minority of Omo lovers within the minority:  those who became that way after witnessing a real person or people close to them pissing their pants or otherwise being incredibly open about urination, often when the subject was still pre-pubescent or even pre-kindergarten age.  And who is closest to us at that age?  Unless you live in a cult or remote commune, it tends to be your immediate family, teachers, classmates & extended family.  

But hold up:  why does this group's fetish kick in so much earlier?  Don't all sexual fetishes start around puberty when the proper libido and secondary sex characteristics are forming?  Well, that would be a little too logical, wouldn't it?  The short and long answers are no.  And NEAUX. 

Many Omo lovers report having known they were "into" holding, wetting and diapers at ages that FAR predate a sexual orientation, knowledge of masturbation, orgasms or even what constitutes "sex".  They didn't even understand what those "excited" feelings meant--just that they liked it.  No need to keep referencing these mythical "others," as I am one of them.  You can read more of my Omo origin story here but let's just say it was firmly established before I could recite the alphabet, count to 10 or even THINK about tying my shoes.  In fact I'd just completed potty TRAINING myself.  (Yes, I do recall one or two instances of voluntarily using the plastic white potty as a toddler).  

So then what in God's name is going on in these precocious frea--umm, unique souls?  That's the big question, but it always goes back to the circular "Nature/Nurture" debate:  some believe there's a genetic/DNA link while others suspect it's modeled to very young children by a caregiver, perhaps before said caregiver thinks the child will not be "old enough to remember later".  In this scenario, the caregiver might be more "open" and inappropriate with all things pee, perhaps solo or with a spouse or partner (yeah, don't think about that too hard), thereby unintentionally sparking a lifelong fascination with it in their offspring.  Perhaps said caregiver had a wetting/pee fetish themselves, or maybe legit incontinence.  It could even be a mild form or something that was just situational--a strict college professor or boss who drove them to have an accident in front of you by denying bathroom breaks.  IME it really doesn't take much more than that for some of us.    


Unpleasant Truths

How does seeing something like this affect the developing brain?

Nobody wants to believe their caregivers would intentionally act inappropriately around them regardless of whether they thought we'd "remember later," but can you REALLY say with absolute certainty they haven't?  It doesn't have to be your biological parents either:  a babysitter, daycare worker, older cousin, neighbor, step-parent or friend's parent could've been the culprit.  Remember, I'm not talking when you were 6, 11 or 15 but closer to 1, 2 or 4-years old. 

My memory happens to go back as far as my 2nd Xmas but gets a bit hazy from there, so I can only speak to the years from 2 onward.  And there were definitely some odd red flags sprinkled in here & there at times.  Like an event about which my caregiver recently said "No way!  You were too young to remember that!" (It wasn't anything huge or abusive, they were just surprised I remembered).  This makes me question what else they might've said or done under the theory that my infantile brain wouldn't remember later.   😬




Dark History

Surgeons operated on babies without anesthesia until 1987. 

Until the 1980s, infants were operated on in surgery WITHOUT anesthesia or pain killers for the same reason:  sure it hurts NOW but they'll never remember it!  This barbaric practice had predictably lifelong effects, proving we don't NEED to consciously recall an event in great detail (or ANY detail) for it to leave scars & change who we are.  Think of your most recent nightmare--I mean a really bad one that left you lying in a puddle of cold sweat, heart pounding like you'd just run through the woods from a killer.  It likely didn't involve perfectly preserved events as they happened IRL, but there were probably a couple realistic, true-to-life memories or scenarios sprinkled in that made it just real enough to give it an uncanny feeling.  Point being:  it was the underlying FEELING that stuck with you the next day, not the sequence of the dream itself. 

So it goes with very early-life experiences, whether extremely positive or negative.  You may not remember the exact event or timeline of what sparked your Omo fetish, but it's imprinted on your brain deep down in there somewhere, and it left behind a powerful "feeling" that would follow you for life like the sweet, moist (sorry) scent of Earth after a fresh rain. 

Except instead of rain, it's pee.  

On a final note, I have another first-degree relative with a totally unrelated but equally strong fetish.  I am only aware of this against my will because they lack the "common sense" to be discreet about it.  Like mine, theirs set in around age 2 and the same parent was the unwitting trigger.  (I know for a fact said parent didn't intentionally cause the sibling's fetish because I was older by then & remember when they first started showing unnatural interest in that topic).  Two blood relatives in one household with two wildly different "interests" that both started extremely young thanks to modeling.  That actually makes a pretty strong case for a genetic link to fetish development in general, if not Omo specifically.   Of course it's anecdotal and a sample size of 2, so not all that scientific.  But it's something.  You wouldn't be able to construct a scientific study on this as it would be unethical, so anecdotes are kinda the best we've got.

As with the "gay gene" we still haven't found, I suspect Omo is more nurture than nature.  And here's why:  I've been able to turn several people on to pee simply by daring them to piss themselves one time or saying some other off-handed comment about urine.  If we "got it from our genes," it was most likely by SEEING family engage in this behavior and being excited by it, even if we didn't quite understand what we were seeing at the time.  

Stay tuned for Part 2, containing a questionnaire for the "sensation" group.