Omorashi & Diaper Lovers: Similar But NOT the Same

Definitions:   Omutsu--shorthand for "Omutsu Omorashi" (Japanese for "to wet oneself in a diaper")--is one of many sub-fetishes within the broad Piss Kink umbrella.  Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers (two separate but often overlapping communities) have fetishes that revolve around the wearing of diapers, age play and/or using said diapers to empty their bladder and/or bowels.  

I recently stumbled upon the incredibly detailed account of one lifelong Diaper Lover and find his (her?) life path with the fetish quite interesting.  (And a bit disturbing at times if I'm honest).  I can't for the life of me find the link but it goes like many other stories of its kind:  fetish sets in young, kid steals diapers from younger sibling, gets caught a few times, starts buying diapers at the store, continues into adulthood.  It shares many similarities with my own desperation/wetting fetish but also many differences, proving that no two piss kinks are alike.

If I'm being honest, I've been spending more time in diapers myself lately so I thought I'd see what that community had to offer and I just... no.  It's a whole other fetish centering around the diaper itself, being seen by others when "wearing" (this term reminds me of how gun owners use the term "carrying".  e.x. - "the guy stepped to me wrong.  He's luckily I wasn't carrying") & the concept of regressing to some idealized infant or toddler state ("infantilism").  I don't know much but I do know that my wetting fetish does not rely on, incorporate or otherwise interact with myself or others LARPing as infants.  Or worse.  More on that below.

There also appears to be a troubling "binge/purge" cycle with this particular fetish in which the participant will buy a bunch of baby-themed items or diapers, go through a phase of wearing them often and then freak out and throw the whole pack away.  Rinse, repeat.  I say "troubling" because this pattern is a lot like binge drinking or literal binging/purging in bulimia--an unhealthy excessive behavior indicative of one's life being controlled by a stimulus, not the other way around.  

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Then there's the big one that really (excuse the pun) pisses me off:  exposing unwilling participants of potentially any age and background to THEIR fetish behavior for a sexual thrill.  These people can range from close friends and family to total strangers in stores like Walmart or Target.  As bad as the "drive-by diaper" exposures in random stores are, I really feel for the kids and teens trapped in homes with these proud fetishists who undoubtedly bloviate about their perverse interests & overshare things that have no business being shared outside a consenting adult relationship between close friends or sexual partners. 

The lack of concern some of these folks show toward the feelings of those who may witness their behavior against their will is most troubling and infuriating to me, as it is the same thinking a rapist has when he considers only his short-lived pleasure and not the victim's lifelong trauma afterward. Grown men bragging about how open they are about their diaper-wearing in front of their wife and daughter, for instance, while receiving asspats for "obtaining acceptance" via their "bravery".  Not a single person with the balls to stand up & say, "Hey man, that's kinda creepy."   




Where's the Line?

Consent is not negotiable, especially in fetish play.

While there is NOTHING whatsoever wrong with using diapers for convenience or fetish play (or even choosing to use them as part of a consensual no-toilet "lifestyle)," that only applies when you keep it to yourself & don't impose your fetish on others.  Nobody outside your fetish friends and MAYBE your spouse wants to know what you're wearing under your clothes, or whether you consider yourself an "adult baby" or "otherkin" or "furry" or "leather daddy."  This is not like coming out of the closet as gay; it's a paraphilia.  Random people in your life don't need to know.  In fact they have a right NOT to, especially if they're living/working in close quarters with you.  Believing otherwise means you've gotten too lost in the porn, fantasy & fetish world & can no longer tell reality from make believe.  And people that delusional can be dangerous.

I'm not painting all Diaper Lovers with this brush, mind you.  But after a very short time perusing one of the big DL forums I was very put off by the vibes.  There was a distinct lack of separation between fantasy & reality and a desire for "social acceptance" despite distinctly anti-social behaviors.  "Social acceptance" means co-existing with people unlike yourself while peacefully tolerating said differences, NOT demanding praise & validation from strangers or exposing loved ones to sexual shit against their will.  Your right to swing your fist ends where my nose begins, and my nose begins at the point where someone tries to impose their sexual will on me physically, mentally, emotionally or otherwise.  Some of y'all are either unknowingly or intentionally setting back any chance at acceptance with your creepy behavior & narcissistic expectations.   

Would you expect to see a boxer or brief wearing adult parading around the store with their undergarments out, HOPING that strangers of any potential age/background compliment them?  Or is that predatory behavior?  Because I saw one proud DL complaining about the lack of 'compliments' or acknowledgement from strangers of his diaper IN THE MIDDLE OF A POPULAR CLOTHING GOODS STORE.  The fact that using diapers is not immoral on its own doesn't give you license to tell and show everyone.  If you're requiring this kind of "feedback" from others, it's crossed over into voyeurism/exhibitionism and is no longer just about wetting, diapers, or anything of the kind.  It's predatory.  Consent is not optional.  Those people didn't consent to seeing that in a totally non-sexual environment & you have no right to expose them to it.

And about that "or worse" comment in the 1st paragraph:  there are those in the DL community who either fantasize openly about OR actually expose real children to this highly-inappropriate conduct (and plenty more who cheer them on).  They brag openly about exposing kids in their care to THEIR sexual fetish/way of life--kids who have 0 power to escape or control their environment  Case in point:  

Fantasy or all too real?  Either way, this is NOT OK.  (Click photo to enlarge).

Now, whether you believe this extreme story or not really is beside the point.  The issue is with how comfortable this creep felt expressing these sentiments openly and the numerous onlookers who gave it positive feedback.  I've never seen anything like this in the Omorashi/pants wetting community.  I'm sure it exists but it's nowhere near as prevalent as in the AB/DL world.  This wasn't even almost the only horrifying post I saw in my short time there on this clearnet forum.  Yet y'all want "acceptance" and tolerance?  

Again, this isn't intended to paint everyone with the same brush--I know not all AB/DL's are okay with this.  But it's a bit like the "bad apples" argument made by corrupt police:  at a certain point, if the good apples don't call out the bad ones, that makes them bad by default.  As they say, 'one rotten apple spoils the bunch' & that appears to be true in this case.  Folks are either so desensitized by porn, fetish material or what have you that they've lost their grip on mortality and REality.  No matter your fetish, don't let yourself get to this point.  It gives us all a terrible name & creates real victims.    

On that note, shout out to all the forum moderators & admins who work hard to keep this kind of filth off our Omorashi platforms.  Methinks some of these bold exploitative fools need their hard drives checked by authorities.





 

Thoughts?