Babe, so what. Nobody cares.
I see so many questions like this from people with a desperation/wetting fetish who want to try wetting or related activities but feel too ashamed to even be able to let go and try it one time alone. (Or if they do they feel absolutely disgusted with themselves afterward).
If anything is a "shame" it's the killjoys of the world who have sucked every last bit of happiness out of life for so many adults, leaving them in a state of perpetual self-doubt & uncertainty. I'm talking about the uber-conservative Church Ladies who go around wagging their fingers in everyone's faces, slapping "Parental Advisory" stickers on everything and making us feel dirty for the very things that make us human: sexuality, procreation, seeking states of euphoria/bliss with plants God put on the Earth for our enjoyment, etc. Maybe one of these Ladies was your mother, maybe your grandmother... or God forbid, your wife. 😱 (Don't get it twisted, these types come in male varieties too: the Pat Robertsons, Fred Phelps, Steve Andersons, Kenneth Copelands, Billy Grahams, Bill Gothards and others who try to legislate their version of backward, hateful "morality" like flabby dieters imposing their Jenny Craig diets on the rest of us).
But here's the thing about those types: they have more skeletons lurking in their musty little closets than we could ever dream of having, which is why they spend all their time projecting. One thing I've found true in this life is that the louder someone proclaims sainthood, the less saintly they tend to be in reality. And whatever issue they hyperfocus on in others, be it abortion, homosexuality or something else that's none of their damn business, it's usually for personal reasons; that is to say, because THEY'VE had an abortion or are repressing gay feelings and are deeply ashamed of those aspects of themselves. Point being, there are no saints in this world. Everyone is fallible & has their flaws so don't let the holy rollers make you feel bad.
Whew. Think I've made my point. On to today's Q&A then! 👉🏼 🪧
How far back does your wetting shame go? Don't be afraid to get to the root.
Step #1: Pinpoint the origins of your sexual shame so you can truly work through it. It's different for everybody. Where does the bulk of your humiliation/self-loathing over this kink originate? Religion/purity culture? A traumatic childhood experience with family, friends, bullies? The media? The general brainwashing we all endured during potty training telling us we were "little bratty babies" if we wet ourselves and equating using the toilet with being "big kids" with lots of privileges? Who told you pee was dirty or bad?
If someone you loved came to you in distress over the same thing you're dealing with now, would you shun them or try and reason with them, telling them it's just an odd little quirk that doesn't change or diminish who they are?
Most of us wouldn't abuse our loved ones the way we do ourselves, yet we continue holding ourselves to unrealistic and toxic standards over something we didn't choose and can't change. Read that again:
we didn't choose our turn-ons and can't change them. If that were possible, people from hyper-religious families wouldn't ever be gay & little white girls from racist Southern families wouldn't have strapping Black boyfriends that get them disowned & kicked out of the will. We'd all just stick to dating/marrying the type of person our parents wanted for us (gag) & make life a lot easier for everyone. But that's not how attraction works--it can be totally random and irrational... occasionally even counterintuitive.
And that's just sexual orientation and compatibility. Things get even hairier when it comes to paraphilias and fetishes.
Luckily for us, Omorashi is one of the more benign kinks out there. It need not involve anyone against their will or harm innocent people, thus shame is not warranted. Heavy feelings like guilt, remorse, humiliation, fear or feeling "dirty"/sinful do have their place, but they should be reserved for things that actively alienate, violate or denigrate others. As long as you're exploring this kink on your own in priva
te, who are you hurting?
[Stop here & breathe for a second before reading on. In, 2...3...4. Out, 2...3...4. Good] Really think about the question: who are you hurting or even affecting in ANY way by exploring this side of yourself? Who will ever know, and in the grand scheme of things, how will history be changed by it?
Answer:
It won't.If your friends are the source of the bad vibes, maybe it's time to find some better friends or pull back and roll solo for a while. Same goes for judgmental family members. You don't have to disclose your personal fetish to determine whether they're bringing you down: simply cut back on the amount of time you spend around them and see if you feel any lighter. If yes then you have your answer. This is one of the biggest perks of being an adult: being able to decide who stays in your life and who gets walking papers. Don't let it go to waste because there aren't a whole lot of other perks to being an adult and having bills to pay.
Step #2: Learn about other fetishes/paraphilias. You'll quickly see ours is tame by comparison. Yes, that's coming from a biased Omorashi-lover, but there's also the
unbiased fact that urine is not a disease vector like so many other bodily fluids, and wetting oneself is not capable of causing serious physical harm like BDSM, autoerotic asphyxiation or fetishes involving human blood (ex. - vampirism. Yes, that's a real thing. Like I said, look it up on Google or another search engine). 🧛 Note I said
capable of causing serious harm, not guaranteed to. I'm not here to shame or degrade those other fetishes.
While pee is not sterile and shouldn't be consumed or rubbed into the eyes or open wounds, it's no more dangerous than tears or saliva in terms of infectious disease spread. That technically makes it safer than both vaginal fluid and semen/sperm as well as feces, blood, vomit & breastmilk, which can transmit illnesses like HIV, hepatitis, E. coli/Salmonella, C. diff, norovirus and more. So why the irrational societal disgust response to it? Ignorance, potty-training era propaganda & social pressure, that's really it. 🤔
Step #3: Find other like-minded souls & learn from them. Simply observing how many other men and women enjoy the exact same thing you do can be very liberating and can normalize what currently feels abnormal to you. Seek out these communities, sign up for discussion boards, chat groups and more online and just lurk a while if needed. Once you feel comfortable, start a thread or ask how others were able to overcome their feelings of shame or guilt & take a page from their book. While paraphilias will never be "mainstream" by their very definition, you can help bring them out of the shadows simply by talking about them, even anonymously online like I'm doing now. Doing so can also help you feel more normal and "human" when you see just how many other functioning, intelligent people out there share the same trait as you.
Step #4: Practice "letting go" as often as possible. As they say, practice makes perfect. There's no better way to get over your fear than to face it head-on. As children we live under the strict rule of parents, teachers, coaches, religious leaders, babysitters & other guardians who monitor our every move. Of course this is in exchange for having all our bills paid and our financial needs met so it's a decent trade-off. But one of the few true joys of adulthood is having the freedom to explore & express who we truly are at our core--what makes us,
US rather than a second-rate spinoff of our parents or guardians. Our sexuality is one small facet of that.
Whenever the urge arises and you have the time/privacy,
grant yourself the permission to explore this side of yourself in more depth, and make a pact with yourself that you will try not to dwell in shame too long afterward. (This part also requires repetition and practice, as these "dirty" feelings tend to wane over time). If you find yourself overcome by a wave of "icky" or dark feelings, take some deep breaths and return to this article, a relevant thread on a chat forum or some other thing you've bookmarked that brings you a measure of peace about this issue.
If you still require extra support, reach out to an anonymous Omo friend on one of the forums, or try journaling about it in as much detail as possible (throwing the paper or document away immediately afterward for privacy, of course). These things aren't always easy but they're guaranteed to both distract you in the moment AND help you work through the bad feelings over time. Sometimes the only way out is THROUGH. Plus, you deserve to have fun while you're still young and healthy enough to enjoy it. Life's too short to deprive yourself of basic sexual pleasure as long as it harms no one else.
When in Doubt, Lean on Facts
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When in doubt, it's best to lean on facts instead of emotions. I often remind people that wetting is the "natural" (default) setting for us humans & was something we ALL did before our guardians molded us into automatons during potty training. Like wearing clothes or drinking through straws, we're the only animal on Earth that does it (uses toilets). If we're being honest, it's the practice of herding ourselves into public bathroom stalls or whipping it out at urinals every time we need to piss that's
really bizarre. Think about how odd that is for a minute: depantsing or whipping it out and draining your bladder next to a total stranger in a little poorly cleaned room known as a 'public bathrooom'. Yet nobody questions it. This alone shows that "the majority" isn't always rational, unbiased or
right.
Being a sexual minority is not equivalent to being a sexual deviant. The difference is consent & consideration for the rights/feelings of others.
As for learning to let go & enjoy it, start by going in places that feel safe/private, such as over the toilet or in the bath tub (empty or while bathing/showering) with the bathroom door locked, or in the backyard when your roommates are gone. If you have diapers or an incontinence mat ($20 on Amazon or eBay), you can also use your own bed when everyone's asleep.
Privacy, planning (time, place, clothing fabric, alibi), timely cleanup and basic tech OPSEC are key.Note that a little embarrassment or awkward feeling about anything sexual is perfectly normal. Sex & masturbation are a private act and these feelings help ensure we keep it that way. Also. the people online who seem so open about this (like me) are using anonymous usernames and likely aren't nearly as open about it in their everyday lives, as they shouldn't be. While everyone has their turn-ons, others shouldn't be subjected to them against their will. As long as you observe excellent personal hygiene & keep your activities between you and your kinkster friends, there's nothing TO be ashamed about!
The only way out is THROUGH (the panties). 🫠
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